Amor y otras cosas: Types of infidelity

• José Luis López Velarde talks about the types of infidelity that can exist in a relationship.
• Some people believe it’s just about something sexual, but there are other forms of infidelity.
• Communication is key so that a relationship can overcome problems that arise.

Welcome to «Love and Other Matters»! Today, José Luis López Velarde, a psychologist and sexologist specialized in couple’s issues, will guide us through the different types of infidelity and how to address them in a relationship.

With over 12 years of experience helping people build successful relationships, José Luis will share valuable advice for maintaining a dream relationship.

Let’s start by defining infidelity, as it’s fundamental to understand it before exploring its various types.

Often, we think of infidelity exclusively in terms of extramarital sexual relations, but it’s not always that simple.

The Concept of Infidelity

Infidelity can be any breach of an agreement, whether explicit or implicit, in a couple’s relationship.

These agreements can relate to monogamy, finances, time spent together, and many other aspects.

It’s essential to make a list of all the explicit and implicit agreements in your relationship, as we often take certain rules for granted without discussing them.

For example, if your partner never mentions the possibility of polyamorous relationships and neither do you, you might implicitly assume that both are committed to monogamy.

Some Forms of Infidelity

However, it’s important to communicate and clarify these agreements to avoid misunderstandings.

Financial Infidelity: This is the type of infidelity that is often overlooked but can be highly destructive.

It occurs when one of the partners hides or spends money outside the relationship in a way that creates financial disparity and generates distrust.

The lack of financial transparency can undermine trust and cause serious conflicts.

Other Types

Emotional Infidelity: Although this form of cheating may not destroy the relationship, it can cause deep emotional pain.

It occurs when one of the partners develops a significant emotional connection with someone outside of the relationship. This can include spending more time and flirting with that person to the detriment of the main relationship.

Sexual Infidelity: This is the type most commonly associated with infidelity and refers to extramarital sexual relations.

However, it’s important to remember that sexual infidelity is on a continuum and can range from sexual fantasies and masturbation to physical sexual relations with other people.

Prevention is Possible

Infidelity can take many forms and it’s essential to address it in a couple’s relationship.

Identifying the agreements in your relationship, communicating openly with your partner, and working together to build a healthy relationship are key steps to preventing and managing infidelity.

Remember that your well-being is important and that you deserve to be happy. Working on yourself and remembering that you are important is necessary to be in optimal condition.

For now, I bid you farewell and thank you for your interest in the topic. José Luis López Velarde signs off for now. Until next time!